Sis, let’s get real for a minute. What he went through in prison? You’ll never know everything. You can try to understand. You can listen to his stories. But the full extent of what he endured—the struggles, the fears, the trauma—that’s something he might never fully share, and it’s something you may never fully grasp.
Prison changes a person. It’s a place where survival becomes the priority, where trust is a luxury few can afford. The man who went in isn’t the same man who came out. You might look at him and see the person you used to know, but deep down, he’s been through things that you’ll never completely understand.
The truth is, prison leaves marks that aren’t always visible. The way he acts now, the things he says, the distance you might feel—it all stems from the experiences he had behind those walls. He’s been shaped by a world that’s harsh, unforgiving, and relentless. A world where he had to harden himself just to make it through each day.
You may wonder why he doesn’t open up more, why he keeps certain things to himself. Sis, it’s not that he doesn’t want to share. Sometimes, he can’t. The memories are too painful, the experiences too raw. And even if he could find the words, would you really want to know every detail? Could you bear that weight with him?
This isn’t about creating excuses for him. It’s about understanding that the person he is now is a product of what he went through in there. He may never tell you everything, and that’s okay. What’s important is how you both move forward from here.
So, what can you do?
- Be Patient
Give him time to process, to heal, to adjust. He’s trying to figure out who he is outside those walls, just as much as you’re trying to understand who he’s become.
- Be Supportive
Let him know that you’re there for him, no matter what. Even if he doesn’t open up about everything, your support can make all the difference. Sometimes, just knowing someone’s in his corner is enough.
- Accept What You Can’t Change
There are things you’ll never fully understand, and that’s okay. Accept that there are parts of his past that belong to him alone. What matters is how you both deal with the present and the future.
- Encourage Professional Help
If you see him struggling, encourage him to seek help. Therapy or counseling can be a safe space for him to work through his experiences. It’s not about fixing him—it’s about helping him heal.
- Take Care of Yourself
Don’t forget about you in all of this. His journey is his own, but so is yours. Make sure you’re taking care of your own mental and emotional health. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Sis, you’ll never know everything he went through in prison, and that’s something you have to come to terms with. But that doesn’t mean you can’t build a future together. It just means you have to approach it with understanding, patience, and love.
Remember, the road ahead may not be easy, but it’s one worth traveling if you both commit to walking it together.