Sis, I know he hurt you. I know the pain he caused feels like it’s cutting through your soul every single day. You trusted him, loved him, stood by him—and he broke your heart. The wounds he left feel like they’ll never heal. But, Sis, listen to me—you have to forgive him.
I know what you’re thinking. How can you forgive someone who caused you so much pain? How can you let go of the anger and the hurt when it’s all you feel inside? But, Sis, forgiveness isn’t about letting him off the hook. It’s about setting yourself free.
Forgiving him doesn’t mean what he did was okay. It doesn’t mean you have to forget. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. Forgiveness is strength. It’s courage. It’s choosing your peace over the pain he left behind.
But how do you forgive when the hurt runs so deep? Here’s how, Sis:
- Acknowledge Your Pain
First, you have to be honest with yourself about how much he hurt you. Don’t try to bury it or push it aside. Feel it. Cry if you need to. Scream if it helps. You can’t heal what you don’t acknowledge. Allow yourself to feel every emotion—anger, sadness, betrayal—so you can begin to let it go.
- Understand Why He Hurt You
Sometimes, understanding where the pain came from can help you start to forgive. Maybe he was broken in ways you couldn’t see. Maybe he was dealing with demons you didn’t know about. This doesn’t excuse what he did, but it can help you see that his actions were more about him than they were about you.
- Release the Need for an Apology
Sis, sometimes the apology you’re waiting for will never come. And that’s okay. You don’t need his apology to forgive him. Forgiveness is for you, not for him. It’s about deciding that you’re not going to let his actions hold you captive any longer.
- Shift Your Focus
Instead of focusing on what he did to you, focus on what you can do for yourself. Focus on your healing, your growth, your future. When you shift your focus away from him and onto yourself, you begin to take back your power.
- Let Go of Resentment
Resentment is like a heavy backpack you’ve been carrying for too long. It weighs you down and keeps you stuck in the past. Let it go, Sis. Put down that backpack. You don’t need to carry that burden anymore.
- Forgive Yourself
Forgive yourself for trusting him, for loving him, for believing in him. You did what you thought was right at the time. You loved with an open heart, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. Forgive yourself so you can move forward with a clean slate.
- Practice Daily Forgiveness
Forgiveness isn’t a one-time thing. It’s a daily choice. Every day, choose to let go of a little more of the hurt, the anger, the pain. Some days it will be harder than others, but keep choosing forgiveness. Over time, it will get easier.
Sis, I know this isn’t easy. But you’re stronger than you think. You deserve peace. You deserve to live without the weight of this pain. Forgive him, not because he deserves it, but because you do. You deserve to be free. You deserve to move forward. And you will.
Forgiveness is the key to your freedom, Sis. Use it. Set yourself free.